This valentines day is your turn...to charm him

February is  a month of love.. You can actually plan out many things apart of your career and boring practical decisions of your life for a while . If you have a boyfriend- you can go out and spend some lovely time with your partner and if you don't have your love  yet then girl do make it happen this time for sure (wink).Love is a lovely feeling and obviously it doesn't require any special day for acknowledgement.  But ..keeping this date -14th feb as a "Date's date " surely adds little more excitement and thrill in the relationship.So, if you have already made your plans for this day then you have to make little more efforts to impress your boy with your charm. Loving your guy like hell, wishing him good morning and night  each day, asking him all about his worries and tensions is not ALL. You have to add tench of charisma and sex appeal to make your relationship charge up like as a beginning. Every girl want a boyfriend who has many qualities like:

1. Handsome

2. Tall

3. Romantic

4. caring

5. well settled

6. LOYAL

yes??? am I right girls? So i just wanna ask you all that have you ever thought that like you, your Mr, Right too have some expectation from you. I mean not in that extend, but yes these poor fellows might too have some quality list in there mind about there dream girl. 

After so much surveys and hearing all the relationship stories of my friends and colleagues I have gather a very interesting data about boys . Like wise girls, boys also have a frame of mind that they want to date. 

I know 90% of girls might be thinking that boy wants a sincere and loving girlfriends . Yes??

BUT..

I am sorry to say that boys always want loving and caring MUMMY not girlfriends...

So, if you thinking that your love and care for your boy is all enough for your relationship then please wake up!!! I mean this is NOT all !!!

In this editorial I am listing out what my point of view on being a perfect girl for your boy this valentines!!!

On valentines we always want to make little efforts from ourselves to make our partner happy and delighted to add charm to the relationship. Poor boys hate teddy bears and roses but still they especially buy them for us to make us happy. 

Right?

But according to you, this day is only for boys to proof there love?

THINK...

I mean I am not saying that you go and buy some gadget for them or some garments to impress them. They will NEVER.. trust me!!

Boys love to be with most beautiful and sexy girl. They love it. 

I am not saying that you ask your most beautiful girl in your group and sit with your boy ..(wink). But ..My motive is little different but very beneficial. 

So,

I want to make a mark that you can present your self in best possible way to appeal your guy and make him want him even more then ever...

The more your look beautiful.. more he will be happy!!!

Easy rule?

So, lets follow it this valentines to see what happens...

Here in this editorial I have list out some very collections of things that you can buy for yourselves to make your guy happy. 

And a happy guy is = happy date= Love magic!!!

(wink)

Happy Reading girls !!!

1. Starting with the Lingerie!!!

You know -to look sexy, you have to feel sexy from inside. You have to fit and healthy. I mean opt for best lingerie destination in the town is the most vital task. And if we are talking about valentines day, it HAS TO BE THE BEST!!! I love Red..As a name says red  is a colour of love. This collections is best and if you are all confused what to choose, then opt this!!! 

http://www.zivame.com/buy-bra-online/half-cup-bra/penny-padded-wired-embroidered-bridal-bra.html

http://www.zivame.com/buy-bra-online/half-cup-bra/penny-level-1-push-up-plunge-bra.html

http://www.zivame.com/buy-bra-online/half-cup-bra/enamor-multi-colored-edges-lightly-padded-wired-bra.html

Well you can have plenty of collections here at simple click!!!

You just have to get here: www.zivame.com/

No No NO, I am NOT promoted this site (wink). Actually I love it, thats why I shared !!! You can choose from where ever you want !!!

2. Dress

I always opt for English colours for valentines day. Many girls thinks that Boys like cute girls like frills and bows on dresses. But I need to tell you all that please be simple, be you!!! Don't try to be somebody else. 

Opt some nice soothing colours with decent designs to impress your guy!!!

let me suggest nice one piece dresses, you might love them!!!

http://www.stalkbuylove.com/red-after-dark-party-dress-9.html

http://www.stalkbuylove.com/flower-power-dress-9.html

http://www.flipkart.com/noi-women-s-layered-dress/p/itmdvhkhkhdmgga3?pid=DREDVHKFYVHAFRSF&srno=b_1&ref=b3f1d5e2-189a-4ed7-9d37-4185e30f5d28

Collections are unlimited to choose from!!! But choosing foral prints, beige and pinks and red and obliviously sky blue is best options to appeal the eyes your love !!!

3. Hairs

After deciding what to wear, you have to take a extra care to your hairs!!! Boys love straight hairs more than curls. Don't be defended, your thinking can be little different too. But if you are relying on me, then try me this time and GO FOR TEMPORARY STRAIGHTENING.. to see the real result.

These points you must NOT forget in hairs styling:

1. Before straightening, have a good head oiling message before night.

2. Don't use any kind of hair bands or clips, that makes you looks immature!

3. Never keep your hairs behind your ears, hairs falling on your face makes you look more appealing and charming in from of your partner. 

4. Bellies

After doing well with your hairs , next step is to make your toes look sexy and ravishing. wearing nice dress is not all. You have to toe your legs, have proper waxing sessions, bleaching and pedicure and have cherry colour nail colour. 

DONT ever go for black or green or blue on valentines. Forget about the colour of the dress that you are wearing and FOCUS on the red nail paint.

I love Oriflame. You can opt this, like me or choose what your heart says - BUT dont forget red!

http://www.snapdeal.com/product/oriflame-pure-colour-nail-polish/164899061

after the nail paint, the bellies have to be RED. Forget about the dress colours. Trust me!!!

Red colours belli not only make your guy seduced but also make you look more elegant and beatiful !! Avoid bows and flowers on foot wear.

Go for high heels.

http://www.heels.com/color/red-shoes

http://www.heels.com/womens-shoes/paltrow-red-pat-pu.html

http://www.snapdeal.com/product/get-glamr-red-stiletto-pumps/663455013?utm_source=earth_feed&utm_campaign=227_394&utm_medium=11082033&vendorCode=a5580b&utm_medium=227_shopping

Or simply you can go to some footwear shop and have something like this :)

5. Make up

For make up, I suggest girls must go for simple kajal, mascara and foundation routine with red lipstick. Dont over do it. keep it simple and very pleasing...

Small girls are more gorgeous.,keep it young!!!

http://www.flipkart.com/oriflame-one-colour-unlimited-lipstick-1-7-g/p/itme43mfpykkkrkh?pid=LSKE43MFSDZG4MRX&srno=b_1&ref=3ed41d46-08d0-4c58-a977-0e6dbf4e11a9

Do carry a nice present and a love letter for your guy to make this day more charismatic and pleasing!

And dont forget to carry you SMILE with you as he says " smiling girls are the gorgeous girls "

Be beautiful!!! Love.. be loved!!!

Chemical Peeling

Every girl wants to have flawless face, free from wrinkle or any acne scars-Right? In order to get this gorgeous face, we endow so many hours to read in magazine, Google on net, consulting to a doctor or sitting with your grand ma to have some homemade tips for your face. But did you ever get any 100% bona fide tips to get your face perfect? Nah... You never! People say drink water, sleep right, avoid junk food or avoid going out in sun. I am too one of those poor girls that are now fed up with these tips and I want to get full proof plan to get out of this face related problem.

So, this time I want to write something that comes up with best and ultimate solutions for your face problems. You people don’t trust me?? Well... have a look at this and write back to us for saying thank you (wink)

Be beautiful!!! Be you!!

 In this section, we are talking about a very effective and safe to use techniques that makes your facial skin look younger, brighter and spot free (100 %)!!!  This technique is NOT new and very much recommended by skin specialist. They are quick and very affordable to use. You just need to take an appointment with your skin specialist and have your chemical peeling done!  Yes... it is Chemical peeling!!!

Let’s waste no more time in using beauty products that are doing nothing to your skin or using any foundations to hide those filthy marks. You are beautiful and you have a right to flaunt it. No sport have a right to keep you cover and hidden. Go out and make your face clean and flawless!!!

Rebounding is very common nowadays and we can see 5 out 8 girls have tried rebounded to keep the hairs shiny and perfect looking. Similarly, that goes with your skin, you can use chemical peeling to have one in a whole problem get out of your face. It will look new and most stunning. Trust me!!!

So, let us know more about this technique...

What is chemical peeling???

It is actually a process in which you can have flawless skin with the use of skin specialist and doctors. In this process, the chemical is used on the areas like face, neck and hands. The chemical solutions are applied to the skin and then keep it to exfoliate and there after peel off. The main motive behind these techniques is by applying chemical, the dead skin of the skin eventually peels off and the new skin that comes in is all new and perfect to look at. That new and regenerated skin will be new, baby type, less wrinkled and smoother to touch. But you have to take care of that skin more as it is more sensitive and need extra care.

Now, let us know how many types of chemical peels are there.

1.      Superficial (AHA peel):

It is a mild chemical peeling and it is also called as Alpha-hydroxy acid peel that works perfectly for less damaged skin areas. This chemical peel is used to cure the outer layer of the face only and it gently peels of the lighter looking scars. It is usually used to improve the completion of the skin and make it look younger and smoother.

2.      Medium peel

This peel is little strong than the AHA peels. It is made from Glycolic or trichloroacetic acid.  It helps you to have both upper and middle layer of the skin and making it more beautiful and flawless. This peel is best to used for age marks, fine lines, wrinkles, freckles and surely to improve the colour of the skin.

3.      TCA peel or Deep peel:

This is the last and strongest of all. It is Trichloroacetic acid or phenol that is used to clean the middle layer of the skin and remove the dead skin. It is best to use if you are upset for your fine lines, age spots, freckles, acne scars and shallow scares too.  This peel is ONLY meant for the skin and can be used once.

After knowing the three peels, let us know before having a peel, what MUST be done?

Always keep in mind that this peel is not as common as any beauty treatments or spa that you can go to any parlours and get it done. Make sure that face is the most important part of your body and you must show extra care to it too. You must consult a DOCTOR for this. Tell your skin specialist about your history of face, when you feel the change of your face completion, how often acne comes to our face.  You doctor will surely ask you to stop taking any drugs that you are using for medications all at once. He might too ask you to use some medication like Retin-A, Renova, or glycolic acid.  You have to understand the damage of the in the depth parameters that will help you to choose which peel you must try. Last but not the least; do take someone along with you at a time of chemical peeling.

These chemical peels are best for reducing:

      Acne scars

      Aging skin

      Crow's feet

      Scars

      Sun damaged skin

      Sagging skin

      Wrinkles

Bad thing is that, few of the ladies cannot go for chemical peeling. Make sure you are not one of them. If you are, consult your doctor, for better alternation.

It is said that light haired and far completion has best results for chemical peelings. They are as perfect as on dark skinned people. It is not meant for people who have infection, active skin problem, cut or any open pores problem. Chemical peeling in this case will make worst results instead of treating them.

Apart from this, it includes:

      Pregnant lady

      Acutance taker from last 6 months

      Have bleach the face 48 hour prior

Now let us a look at its benefits to the skin:

Chemical peel is JUST meant for face, neck and hands. And it gives many benefits too. It may include:

      Reduce fine lines under the eyes and around the mouth area

      Reduce wrinkles

      Reduce sun damage

      Reduce aging effects

      Treat acne

      Reduce scars

      Improve completion

      Makes skin tighter and young

Is it painful??

Chemical peeling is very penny-pinching and stingy. But the good thing is that there is NO much pain involve in the procedure. They are gentle and very quick too. They cause redness to the skin and gives mild irritation and crusting feeling but it will reduce slowly. Doctors also give gels and sun cream lotions to be applied on the face to reduce the irritation and swelling feeling.

Side effects:

You will find many effects on the skin after you apt for chemical peels. They are temporary and will go off soon giving your younger looking skin. And always keep in mind that you are doing this peel under the safe guidance of doctors. They are experienced and most qualified. They won’t do anything that will make you feel regret. Trust them!

      Redness on the skin

      Scarring

      Cold sores

Results:

The best part of this topic is the RESULT (wink). It sounds as if you are trying so hard to cook a butter chicken and now it is all ready to consume.

      Superficial peel: It requires 1 to 7 days to heal. If you have used this peel you will feel little redness and scaling too. You have to use gel and lotion that your doctor has provided you with. You must have to use sunscreen too. Make up is BIG NO. You will be stunned to see your flawless face.

      Medium peel: It required 7 to 17 days to get heal. The skin will look red and swollen too. You might feel worst kind of swelling in first 48 hours. You have to calm down and wait for the results. You feel the outer layer peels off. Mild lotion need to apply on it too.

      Deep peels: It required 14 to 21 days to get it heal. You have put the lotions several times a day. It looks swelling and red too.  You have to ask for doctors if any appointments in between the 21 days are required.

Be beautiful.. Be You!!!

Change you job..NOT your friends!!!

It is not promising that you transmit on working in same position or workplace for rest of your life. You have to move on and try altered genre to get triumphant and enhanced waged for your efforts. But what if the friends you have made in one office remain throughout your life? It seems tricky. And many say that too that the friends you made in schools are real friends.  That is may be because you never take friends of offices for long run ever. Am I right? It feels good to meet your old co-workers and have a party time with them. It’s not that chaotic and useless as it feels. Trust me!  

It feels bad that once you work so closely for long duration of time in one place and one day you change your job and everything ended! That is the worst part of changing the job. Many say that they try to keep in touch with each of them through mails or face book but meeting them are poles apart!

If you are too one of those kinds that wanted to keep your old co-workers with you then this write up will surely help you! We have list out 3 most important points that can help you to keep your “old” with you to have “gold” feeling entire your life!

Happy meeting!

1.      Reunions:

Something is always better than nothing! I know that meeting with your old friends in regular ways are not achievable. But having a get collectively once in a year will certainly do a enchantment. If you have a group of friends in your old office and you can’t get in touch with each of them in one go, then it is not wrong to meet them individual as per your convenience. Today we are living in very hectic life where we don’t have time to sit and watch television also and meeting old co-workers is out of questions. But think, the time you once spend with them shouldn’t let off only due to the fact that you change the job, Right? So, take time and meet them. The best time you can have a group reunion is at birthdays.

2.      Industry Events:

It is always keep in touch with your old co-workers if you are working in same genre. You will get many industrial events that give a chance to meet them. If you know that which event is happening in which date, you can easily mail your old co-workers to keep in touch with you at that particular events. That means that you can work as well as meet with your old buddies too.  You people can too go for dinners after the events too.

3.       Facebook

We have to face this fact that social media is one of the best medium to get in touch with your friends. You don’t need to be ready, board a metro or simply skip your work to meet your old co-workers, it just a click ahead. Each one of us has a smart cell phone and Whatsapp and Facebook installed. You can add them there and get a regular chit chat with them.  It is simple and very effective nowadays.

 Making new friends are very easy, but retaining them for long run is difficult. Take time to keep in touch with your old buddies, it feels great!

For Writers.. like me!!!

Many people write and many love to share, fewer keep them in the dairies too and lesser make money out of it! Yes!!! After doctors, teachers, C.As, bankers and engineers, here comes a new genre in Indian society to have fame, money and respect! Content writers in India are getting hike and highly paid. But writing a useless stuff and filling the empty space on web is NOT the motive. But writing thoughtful and useful must be every writer motive. This write up is especially for our new aspirants that are planning to be a writer. Once in my meeting with my manager, he told me that writing something in English is not great, but writing something good that readers them self ask about you is great! So this content is for our new writer to be most paramount in this genre.

Happy Writing!

Get Paid

It is true to know that many of our writer are so anxious to get there content print in magazine that they ask for NO MONEY at all for writing! According to me, you can do writing for free of cost if you want to build “portfolio” for your writing in publishing house. That is it. But sad thing is that many publishing house will print your articles if your content are not at par standards, even if you are writing for fee for them. So, waste NO time, start with new publications with lesser money! Avoid writing for free of cost. If your articles are not accepted for publishing, don’t delete them, may be another publishing house will approve this write up. Keep it safe and have a positive outlook for writing!

Don’t Ever Delete

As a writer, I understand that how much efforts and time is needed to write content for just 500 words. And if that write up get rejected, you simply deleted it. My concern is that, the time that you have devoted it for writing must not get wasted. Yes, that write up could be less informative or lesser effective to readers. But instead of deleting it, you must edit for another publishing house.

Daily Writing

Writing is not a thing for once a week traditions. Set a target for writing. I am not saying that you must write whole day long, but writing each hour a day make your writing improve and best to read at. Make a habit of writing something for you in any genre, location or word limit. But the main motive must be that should be satisfied after reading our write up. If you really have a passion to write, you surely get a time to write things.

Avoid Writer Block

Sometimes, you might feel that you don’t have any interesting topic to write upon. Don’t skip writing at that day. Write anything that is even nonsense even. You can too write upon that – today you are not getting any topic to write upon.

Small is Good:

It is very obvious that you can’t be a novelist in one go! You have to start with scratch. Write something and mail to the editors of the magazine and newspaper. Your writing will get acknowledgements as well as money.

Write as per the expectations:

 You can’t write something that has never asked for. For good readers appreciations you have to do good research work to have best topics to write upon. It might take more time then you usually take time to write things up.

Editing is Important:

Writing something is not important. To make it most interesting and favourable for reading, you have to do extra efforts. That includes editing, reframing and using new words to it. What actually happens is when a writer writes things up, they write whatever comes to the mind. But main work is that to create it more beautiful by editing it after writing it.

Never submit 1 article to many publications at one GO!

It is a BIG NO to every writer that they don’t submit the same article to the same publications.  If you do it, you will surely come to the “black” books of the firm. Wait until your article got rejected by one firm so, that you submit it another one.

Editors are Important:

You must acknowledge your editors for helping you for suggesting some of the topic for write up. Never use abusive language if your write up get rejected. Be polite and ask for chances to write on the columns.

Be confident

No writer can be best at the start. You have to work hard to be a best in this genre. In this domain of professions, you can’t show your degrees t have money. You have write better each day to be the best in this domain. So be confident and write well.

 keep Writing..Keep spreading !!!

Forgive !!!

Art of living in my terms is the Art of loving ourselves. Life is not just motion of time that it comes again and again. It comes to you only once. That life surely requires love, peace and forgiveness. Art of loving lies in forgiveness. We meet hundreds of people daily from early morning walk in park to family to meeting people in metros or buses to offices and then any passage of time. Some people are good. Some are bad too. Some people make us smile. Might be fewer hurt us? What exactly what should we do? Keep grudges to our heart. Feel the pain. Or answer them by hurting them again? NO. That not is a solution. We can only reduce fire by putting water on it. Fire is never end with putting more fire to it.

This is not very strange thing that I am talking about. We all know that we must forgive people. But why it is so very difficult for us to move on and forgive people. Among the whole species of world, human are the only species that hurt their own selves over and over again by thinking our past events. I am not saying that forgiveness is forgetting. But I mean by forgiveness is to look deep inside ourselves and think again about the event that took place and make us upset. We have to think even deeper to know the reason and the instances that hurt us. 

Mahatma Gandhi too said that weak will never forgive. It is the feature of strong people. How to true is that. I too wanted to say that when we forgive people, we become much stronger. It will make us stronger from inside, and making us happy and carefree to move on.

Adding to all this, we have to say to ourselves that when we are forgiving people who hurt us, we are indirectly forgiving our own selves. We are forgiving ourselves for giving the other person that chance to hurt us, we are forgiving ourselves to believe that we are victim, we are forgiving ourselves for treated ourselves badly by others. It’s not their mistake to hurt us, it’s our mistake that we have gives that authority to them to hurt us.

So, it’s not forgiving them. It’s all about forgiving our own selves.

So whenever you want to practice this art of living just close your eyes and say to yourselves that you are your own master. You love yourselves. Your heart needs peace. And this is your responsibility to give this “peace” to yourselves. No other factors can take this from you. Take deep breath. Forgive that person that made you cry, that made you weak in front of yourselves, forgive him. And most important forgive yourselves. Your life will have plenty of moments that will make you cherish and happy. You can ignore them just for one person that makes you sad. Forgive him.

You truly sense light and slowly that suffering and pain get vanished.

Love! Forgive! And live your life to the fullest!

Washing Rebounded hairs!!!

In winters you know what is the most irritating and chaotic task?? Fir me it is always a hair wash. In this post I am writing few considerations that must keep in mind while you are about to this SUPER difficult task all by yourself.
Well.. My hairs are rebounded plus I too highlighted them. So, taking caring of them is very important and vital task, Trust me!

I love my hairs, like every girl used to. 

We usually have a notions that we must wash our hairs in every 2 days and conditioning is very important. What else you can read here? I mean you might be thinking that how can I make this post most beneficial? 

Umm.. Lets see!!!

My main motive here is NOT making this post more interesting or lengthy. BUT I really want that whoever reads it, must try it once and see the result.

This hair washing post is especially written for winters, when we are not at interested in washing them. So, let make it easy and do it with fun!

In my point of view my hairs are little dry and fizzy in winters and I can't deny the fact that my rebounded hairs are NOW not that straight as earlier as it has been 1.5 years tenure already. 

So, come back to main aspect- Washing.

I want to advice you to wash your hairs in every 4 days in winters and try to reduce the quantity of shampoo and increase the quantity of conditioners for better results.

Now lets us take a look at the things we require for washing our hairs:
1. Almond oil
2. lemon
3. Camphor
4. Shampoo: I prefer Dove
5. Conditioner: Same As above I love Dove
6. Clean towel
7. Cold water, can be simple tap water ( Yes in winters)
8. Hair dryer or room heater 

I know the things are very normal and easily available at home. But do remember that this procedure need to follow every time you wash your hairs in WINTER. 

Before telling the procedures, I would like to share a tip. whenever you want to wash your hairs, never wash them during the normal bath/ shower procedures. actually, What happen is in winters we always prefer hot waters and normal take out 10 mins for shower. Right?? But washing hair is lengthy and very important process. So, what I am saying is wash you hairs separately and after drying process you can take a simple bath may after 2 hours or so for giving better considerations to hairs.

So, let come back to the process:

1. Take a bowl and pour little almond oil, lemon and camphor over night.
2. Next morning, take that oil and do the hair massage for 10 minutes just.
3. Then you can easily relaxed for 30 mins.


Oiling is very important before washing in winter especially as the hairs are very dry and have lost moisture due to cold weather. And keeping in mind that shampoo also take way the moisture from the hairs plus we can also can deny the fact that during winters scalp didnt produce natural oil too. So to keep the hairs soft and less fissy, oiling is very important.

By adding almond oil, lemon and camphor we are not only giving our hairs that moisture but also it adds the shine and makes the hairs silky to touch.

So, let do the washing.

1. Always prefer tap water for washing. By tap water I mean normal water. HOT water is a BIG NO. Actually what happen is, in winters, there is a absence of moisture is hairs but if we use hot water, it will make hairs dry.

2. I personally put head directly beneath the tap.

3. Firstly, try to wash your oily hairs with normal water with the help of finger tips. This washing surely takes 1 minute. I know in winters, it is difficult but mark my words, it will give good results.

3. NOW its a time to use shampoo. I prefer Dove. It is very smooth and gives best result. In summers, I use 2 packets for washing. BUT in winters, we have to follow a magical step: " less shampoo, more conditioner". So, in winters use 1 packet or 1.5 packet of shampoo for washing.

4. Use finger tips to wash.

5. Massage your scalp for 2 minutes. 

6. Always keep in mind: Shampoo is for scalp, conditioners is for hairs.

7. During shampoo massage, you can see clearly how the oil getting out making your hairs softer.

8. Now open the tap and wash your hairs.

9. Thoroughly wash your hairs in open water, as shampoo always have chemicals that might effect the hairs. The more you use water, more it makes your hairs clean.

10. Now with the help of hands, keep the water out by pressing your hairs.

11. Its a time for conditioning. Always keep in mind that conditioners are only for hairs, NOT for scalp.

12. In winter, keep in mind the magical step: less shampoo, more conditioners.

13. Usually I use 2 conditioners, but as in winters, hairs need more moisture, you need to use more quantity. So, I use 3 packets in winters.

14. Now keep our head down keeping your hairs flowing ground way.

15. Divide your hairs in 5 parts- 2 on the left, 2 at the right and 1 at the middle.

16. Now apply the conditioners nicely. 

17. After applying the conditioners, keep it for 4 minutes at least. Let hairs soak it.

18. Now open your tap and with the help of flawing water, wash your hairs.

Wow... its done!!!

Nah!!

Yes.. this is NOT all. Now you need to take clean towel and cover your hairs and press your hairs. Never over do it. I mean doing it harshly can damage the hairs.

Keep the towel on the hairs for few seconds, may be 50 seconds.

Now remove the towel and with the help of fingers try to open your hairs. NEVER use comb for wet hairs.

Its time to turn on the hair dryer/ room heater. let it dry.

Trust me, The texture you will get will be best to touch and see!!!

I love my hairs :)

Thanks

The Dark Road

“Sitting in my cell thinking what the hell is wrong with me

I'm going down for prostitution

and don't know what to do next waiting

to see what the judge has in store for me

I am scared to death

I let a pimp abuse me and let him walk free

damn

I wish I could go back in time scared to look my mom in the eye

scared to become judged by everyone I know

How am I just going to let this ride off me?

So now, sitting where I started all because I'm too scared to talk about what's going on with me.

In my cell every day, thinking why

I let him walk free now I am doing a 6 month bid for someone who doesn't even care where I am

I'm in jail in my cell aching from the pain of jail.”

This aching poetry of a young girl is written be Paulette Essie and I can’t resist myself to start my article with this heart touching poems. What a beautiful poem this person has written. A poor girl may be the age of 8 or 9 is suffering due to the crime that she isn’t known about. She forced to be a prostitute and now she is jail and having punishments that she is didn’t even wished to commit.

So let’s come to the main topic in which we are going to read now. We all are aware about the fact that Women security is the main concern that India is dealing with nowadays. Not just small villages or hostels, but main cities like Delhi are not even safe and secure for women.

The recent case of “nirbhaya in New Delhi” makes many people wonders that if girls should be allowed to go out and study and work or they MUST kept confined in 4 walls of the house for the sake of security.  To avoid this topic of women security, many ill brain people raise the issues that girls should go out at the time of 8 at night, or girls should be wearing proper clothes or simply they say that might girls provoke them.

My concern here in this topic is NOT women security. I am raising a different issue that every one of us must consider once. And that topic is –The dark road of Prostitution! By the work of slut or prostitutes, we have a very disgust feeling? Isn’t? It is may be because of the fact that we always keep the notion of prostitution as the sex for money. I want my readers to know beyond all this. I hope after this article your prospective changes.

A woman is a Woman!!!

First of all let me tell you what exactly the prostitution means??? It is sexual service in the lieu of money. In India, it is NOT ILLEGAL!!!!  But activates related to it are illegal like petition for sex in a public place, pavement packed, owning a brothel are crime.

How it gets started???

It is said that in ancient India, many rich kings ask nagarvadhu to sing and dance in front of them. At that era, these girls are not referred as prostitutes, but “Brides of Town”. It is a fact that the Portuguese in Goa during 16 to 17^th century used to slave Japanese young girls for sexual pleasures.  In 18^th and 19^th century, when British comes to India they set a comfort sex zones for them. They actually wishes to have child and use women as a tool t satisfy their sexual pleasures! They set prostitutes rings.

It is not hidden and a secret trade of women in Indian society. Using a women body for your own pleasure and calling her a whore is a sin nest things that man can ever do in the past till now.

There are many Indian organizations that work in the regard of the safeguard of this perish and equal to dead women to come out from this “ dark road” and live a peaceful life!  These organizations have many plans and parameters to get the goal perfectly.

      Predominance

It is said to know that where we hear all the times that women are scoring more than men in studies or women doing better in all fields as compared to men, this data never raise to public! There are almost 2 millions female sex workers in India. It is indirectly means that we are avoiding 2 millions man powers in India.  In 2007, the Ministry of Women and Child Development states that 3 millions female sex workers in India, out of which 35% of them are trade from outside India. Worst thing to know about this is that mostly girls are below the age of 18 years or so.  The number is raising fast and it is becoming pitiable and wretched.

Locations:

There are many places where these sex workers are being humiliated and use for sexual pleasure for navigable amount of money that you spend for having a mean at Mc. Donald’s even. They are available in lane in Kamathipura, a red light district in Mumbai. It is the most practiced and didn’t have any official sanction too.  The second comes in the list is Asia’s largest red-light districts are Sonagachi in Kolkata, Kamathipura in Mumbai and G. B. Road in New Delhi. They have thousands of sex workers.

Children Enrolment:

It is sad to see the data of the children included in this rackets. It is estimated that around 1.2 millions children take the pictures in it. At the age when they didn’t even know what all these sexual organs are all about, they are forces to get in prostitution where they have no exit doors.

Legal status:

The low that deals with the status of sex workers is called as The Immoral Traffic (Suppression) Act (SITA), 1956. It states that prostitution is legal and they can practice it solicit way or we can say that they are not allowed to peruse men or customers in public. If anyone practice he sexual act in public place they will be punished. It also added as having a brothel or managing a racket under the brothel is also crime in India. It is also important to know that government of India too added that women cannot carry these services up to the 200 yards of public places. They are NOT taken as labours in India and hence all the rights of labours like payments and security is not there for these sex workers too. It is also given that if any girl who wants to get out of these services and get a mental rehabilitation, they can ask governs to help them.

Indian Panel Code (IPC) is the one that take care of the rights of the sex workers. Over the years, India is making efforts to make prostitution as legal service in India to avoid the over exploitation of sex workers.

PITA:

PITA means that The Immoral Traffic (Prevention) Act that is a 1986 amendments in INDIA. This act is founded to limit and abolishing the prostitution in INDIA.  The main factors that PITA considers on are:

      Any sex worker who seduces any man in public will be prosecuted. No girl can publishes their phone number in public or social media sites for sex work. It can in turn to them an Imprisonment of 6 months and a fine.

      Any sex workers cannot work in public areas; it can cause imprisonment of 3 months to the female.

      Man who is engaged in sex with the sex workers in public will be charge of imprisonment of 3 months. And if the sex workers is below the age of 18 years, the imprisonment to 7 to 10 years.

      Any man who is living with a prostitute and living on her earning, will also come under the crime can be put behind the bars for 2 years.

      The landlords and managers that keep the brothels are comes under the crime and can be put behind the bars for 3 years.

      If any female or sex workers want to get out of these services and ask for help, government can provide them with protective home for assistance.

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So far it is good form government part!!! I am impressed and Indian government have given so many help and try to keep force sex services in India.

The main concern is that what all reasons force these girls to get into prostitutions?? We have good survey team with us that try to find out many reasons.  They include:

      Fellow citizen in involvement with parents

      People as pimps

      Sex workers in same locality

      Mysterious person/accidental conference with pimp

      Mother/sister/near relative in the occupation

      Lover export to brothel

      People gives counterfeit expectation job

      Husband (legally married)

      childish college student selling to brothel

Its Sad.